Relationships July 21, 2017
To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.
It’s interesting how women’s trust issues are always blamed on their own insecurities.
Part of that can be true, but I don’t think that is always the case. A lot of our trust issues come from the person in our relationship who is doing something stupid to break our trust. It’s not you. It’s them and their lack of respect for you.
But having trust issues doesn’t have to mean that it’s the end of the world and your relationship is doomed. I do think you can learn how to deal with them for your own sanity and happiness. Because after all, taking care of yourself is priority.
Thanks to reddit, we have gathered really great advice to help us get through these issues.
So here are seven steps to help you deal with your trust issues.
The trick is to not let that corrupt you. “Oh, you screwed me over? Good for you, buddy. It’s what everyone does? Whatever helps you sleep at night.” And then you move on with life. Applying this “I don’t care” state of mind can be easier said than done. But it will help you sleep better.
Try it!
No, really, don’t be afraid of telling someone that you’re having issues trusting them. Be honest with yourself and be honest with the other person. They can learn a lot from you if you practice this.
“Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if it’s broken, but you can still see the crack in that mother fucker’s reflection,” Lady Gaga and Beyoncé say in “Telephone.”
It really isn’t going to be 100 percent, at least not right away. It may even take several months for your partner to be consistent in building the trust back.
The hardest part of the process, though, is being willing to give someone the opportunity to build it. Naturally our guards are up and our defenses are fully loaded. But if you really want this person in your life, give yourself time to cool down and allow your partner to try to make things right.
This also means to give yourself a chance to trust again and have faith that you will get through the little hump. If you don’t allow yourself to also work through it and move on, then you’re not evolving from this issue.
Allowing someone to make things right is the first big step, but if this person keeps doing one stupid thing after another, there is nothing you can do to make this person do right by you.
This is something that they need to deal with on their own. If the lies continue and the shady behavior doesn’t stop, then that person is just not trustworthy.
If things don’t get better, don’t stress yourself out. There are better things to focus your energy on.
“Do you” means keep doing the things that make you feel good. Whoever betrayed your trust will have to live with it, not you. “Sometimes the best revenge you can have is simply living well.” Know your worth and don’t be fazed by the things that you can’t change. You only have one life to live and live it well.
Nothing comes easy without hard work is what people say about your career and being successful in life — and the same idea should be practiced in your relationships with people. Work hard for the relationship and deal with the trust issues together. With time and effort you can overcome your trust issues.
If you’re sick of trying and trying and you’re still not satisfied after having the same trust issues, then be at peace knowing that you tried your best and the other person simply couldn’t meet you halfway. And that’s not your fault.
Remember it’s a two-way street to build trust, and both people need to show up for the relationship to make it work. NEVER blame yourself. Women have intuition for a reason, listen to it every time because it never fails.
